"You need a real woman in your life (That's a good look)
Taking care of home and still fly (That's a good look)
I'mma help you build up your account"
- Beyonce, Upgrade U
In the 1920’s Macy's created the gift registry as a way to ensure that couples got exactly what they wanted at their weddings. The concept is simple a couple goes to store, *pew* *pew* *pew*, scans everything they want and their guests don’t have to stress about purchasing a gift the couple will never use. Before the registry became such a common practice in the industry guest would show up to weddings with WHATEVER they thought their beloved couple would deem a “good gift”. You know what I’m talking about. That weird serving bowl that has been passed down in your family for years? The lime green one you've always hated but your mother insisted on using cause Aunt Mildred gave it to them as a wedding gift. Vintage is totally in right?!
The concept of a registry was more popular back in the day when it was common practice for the couple to wait until marriage to shack up. A couple would essentially be decorating their new house with their spouse with the weddings gifts from their loved ones. Fast forward to 2018, 54% of couples live together before tying the knot, so they already have all the essential house furniture, appliances, and decor. This has led to a decrease in the use of registry within the industry due to the thought process of “I don’t need a registry since I already have everything in my home” . As a planner, a common phrase I’ve been hearing is “We don’t want gifts, we would rather receive money” from my couples. It’s an opportunity to upgrade your current living areas with the furniture, appliances, and decor you’ve been wanting but haven’t brought yourself to splurge on. If you and the husband are into baking as a pastime, get a Kitchen Aid Mixer. Say you and hubby are into gardening this is the chance to get that fancy gardening tool set you’ve had your eye on for years. Other ideas are 1,000 thread count sheets, starting a movie collection, or a nice knife set. You may already be living together but you’re entering a new era of your relationship and that new era should come with new home elements.
You’re loved ones are looking for a way to show their support and contribute to the happiness of your new journey with your boo thang. Let them help upgrade you into a different era of living together.